Compromise to avoid holiday fights with teens

first_img The nonprofit group The World Against Toys Causing Harm issued its annual list of the 10 Worst Toys. It’s topped by Aqua Dots, which contains beads that can be toxic if swallowed. Good nanny/bad nanny One San Fernando Valley mom has compiled a list of do’s and don’ts for screening potential nannies. Her suggestions include printing out an application for each job seeker. Here are three Web sites with options: Application/index.shtml Home for the holidays: So, your teenager wants to spend Thanksgiving or Christmas Day at a friend’s house instead of at home. Or to borrow the family car to go to the mall to buy holiday gifts. Instead of a knee-jerk refusal that may spark a family crisis, parents can offer compromises. Shaunti Feldman and Lisa A. Rice, authors of “For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid,” suggest allowing her to spend a few hours at a friend’s house and then come home for Grandma’s visit. Let him take the car to shop, but set a specific time to be back in the driveway. Worst gift idea apps/EasyNannyApp.shtml application/submit.asp Good little consumers A new study reports that 96percent of students ages 9 to 17 say they use social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace and Webkinz (a site about taking care of a virtual pet). Half of the respondents said they log onto the sites to talk to other students about schoolwork. The research was commissioned by the National School Boards Association and includes interviews with 250 school-district leaders. But it was funded by News Corp., which owns MySpace, Microsoft, which has a stake in Facebook, and Verizon. The Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood, an advocacy group in Boston, criticizes the report and the NSBA because of all the advertising embedded in the Web sites. Internet kids Part 2 The University of Southern California recently hosted a forum on the educational role of virtual worlds such as Teen Second Life and The message from local professors: Online worlds and games provide learning opportunities, but they’re also encouraging kids to become consumers. “Our kids are being taught that to be a good citizen of this world, you got to buy the right stuff,” said Doug Thomas, associate professor at USC’s Annenberg School of Communication. For more on work, family, parenting and the item’s in this week’s column, see local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set!last_img